Tuesday, May 12, 2009

It's just a game

It is a trite sentiment that annoys some people, but it is true... and important to remember.

How many people have ever gotten upset or angry while roleplaying... enough to ruin your fun? Of those remaining, how many have ever been part of a roleplaying session that was derailed when someone got upset or angry? If you don't fall into either of those categories, I suspect you either haven't been roleplaying much or you have been very lucky.

Back in the late 1990s, I was heavily involved in Vampire LARPs. There was a good bit of out-0f-character politicking, backbiting, and stress for many of those with whom I played. I wasn't immune to it. It took me moving halfway across the country and having some other roleplaying experiences to really get some perspective on what I'd been involved with. Gaming had become a responsibility rather than a recreational activity. It was a social outlet, but I didn't actually like some of the people that I was socializing with (not a surprise with a huge group). Was I having fun? Sometimes. Was it an efficient producer of fun? Not really.

Since I moved away, I have changed the way I approach gaming. If I don't enjoy a game, I don't play in it. That seems like a no-brainer, but it is a rarer attitude than I think it ought to be...

3 comments:

Jerry Cornelius said...

Yeah, I remember getting a call late one night from some friends who wanted me to take their side in a disagreement with the GM. Then a few minutes later the GM called up to get me to take his side! They argued about that game for days. Yeesh.

Questing GM said...

This was something that I should have told myself years ago. I was getting to hardcore with gaming that I took it too seriously as some kind of elitist hobby.

Rule of fun says it all. If it ain't fun then it's not a game. Then why are you playing it?

Chris said...

Amen to that. If there's one useful thing I learned from the whole Vampire/WoD 'scene', it's that life is too short for bad game.